You say your wife won’t even consider cutting back, so that means you have to step up and veto her madness. You don’t say how old your son is, but there comes a point when he simply can’t be carted to events and told to perform. In your wife’s frenzy to perfect her son and have him take advantage of all his “opportunities,” she is missing the greatest opportunity of all: giving him a happy childhood. My son is unhappy, but she won’t even consider cutting back.Ī: When your son has to be hospitalized for exhaustion that might give her a clue. ![]() She had a fairly normal childhood with a reasonable amount of activities. And it’s only getting worse-she wants to sign him up to participate in a children’s play put on by our church. I had advocated for one or two of these extracurricular activities at most, but my wife insists that he can’t waste all of these great opportunities. My son has complained that he’s exhausted, especially on weekdays after a full day of school, and that he has no time to just play with his friends. Karate meets twice each week, plus tournaments on weekends. Cub Scouts meets once or twice each week, piano lessons once a week, but require minimum of 30 minutes of practice per day. The two sports teams alone require two to three practices and one to two games per week. Here are his current activities: 1) basketball, 2) indoor soccer, 3) piano, 4) karate, 5) Cub Scouts. Overscheduled: How can I convince my wife that our son has too many things to do outside of school. But if you can see now that everything he does sends you around the bend, you have more work to do on yourself. Forget about things that are none of your business-the quality of his housekeeping being one. Confess how you sometimes have difficulty reigning in your micromanaging. Talk to him about your different styles and how you can accommodate each other. If you are the kind of person who plans everything out with military precision, and he’s a person who likes to act at the last minute, you two may be fundamentally incompatible. Try to sort out and order the things that bother you. But you must recognize this quality is going to end up torpedoing your most intimate relationships. I understand that it takes some effort to control this in more casual situations, so you have a deep psychic need to just be yourself in your most intimate relationship-and that means making sure everything is exactly to your specifications. If you don’t have the guts to discuss this up with your wife, then maybe you can pass her a note saying you’d like the engage the services of a marriage counselor so that you have a safe place to talk to her.Ī: Forget worrying about his being henpecked, just announce you two are in a female-led relationship! Good for you for recognizing you can be a very annoying person. I assume you don’t want your offspring to think of dad as a timid, quivering wreck. If you’re afraid to ask, then you need to rethink what it means to raise a child together not as equal partners. One of the basics of embarking on parenthood is knowing how the event came to be. If you say you want to talk about the pregnancy and the child’s possible paternity and she orders you into the dungeon, then you two are suffering from a failure to communicate. But just because you agreed your wife would set the terms of both her behavior and yours doesn’t mean you are not now entitled to rethink things. ![]() (Hear that, Darling, it’s not me being intolerably bossy, it’s a lifestyle!) In an earlier day, writer John Mortimer delightfully appropriated the term, She Who Must Be Obeyed, to describe this sort of relationship in Rumpole of the Bailey. the next day he wanted to ** me and I told him you did the good little white boy thing and shot your last load in your hand, why don't you ** thinking about me picking up a hot young stud.A: Thank you for informing me of the phrase “ female-led relationship.” From reading the definition, I see that it doesn’t necessarily mean that the wife take lovers while the husband is home making soup. To my surprise he masturbated furious and then took me. I told my husband if he wants me to get that tattoo he will never put his little ** there again. ![]() Then he asked about me getting a tattoo and I told him that I wanted the QofS over my ** so when I flash the BBCs that they know my ** is for them. My husband pushed and wanted to know if he is as well hung as Robert and I admitted that he was not.Īfter that my husband pushed for me to dress very ** when we go out. I also admitted that if Robert hadn't moved overseas I would have married him and was in a weird way accepting of his cheating. I told him that I had stopped that by the time we met. It came up because he saw a photo of me with him and I was dressed very **. A few months ago my husband found out about a black BF I had prior to getting married.
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